if you're one of those people that look at the time of posts, yes, you are seeing this correctly. it is currently 3:43 a.m. , and i am wide fucking awake. dont ask me why, or how, i just am. i've been trying to sleep since approximately 11:30, but alas, no such luck (as you can see).
i have something bothering me, so for the first time ever, i'll ask those who read this for words of wisdom. here goes.
vance's sister is getting married may 19th, 2007. that's roughly 2 and a half months before us. thats fine with us, and up until recently, i thought it was fine with her, too. apparently, it isnt. she's been calling recently...and every single time she calls, she asks vance the same thing: "are you sure you really want to marry her?" . now being the 'her' in this question, only reinforces the feeling of resentment i get from her (im sure most reading this have heard me relay this encounter, if not, i'll cut it short; she was a bitch, didnt say 2 words to me, and didnt give a shit what i had to say. she gave me the same looks i've given the girlfriends of my brothers when i didnt like them. nickname? the wicked witch of the west.). anyway, so thats fine. i'm all for being a concerned sibling...but at some point, unless given a reason, you need to stop asking that question. i know vance, quite well i like to think, and if he wasnt ready for this, i'd be the first to know.
now this isnt actually whats bothering me. now being the un-married type, im not aware of the exact time length of a honeymoon. i'd assume roughly 2 weeks. well, according to vance's sister (her name is lisa), their's will be 3 months.
yes, you did read that correctly, as well. according to her, their plans are to go to nova scotia to visit the groom's family immediatly after the wedding, then head down south. im sorry, does that take 3 fucking months? so she had the nerve to call and tell vance that tonight. that maybe we should change the date of the wedding AGAIN (it's been done 3 times now, i'll get to that in a minute). am i just being defensive, or is that completely ludacris? she told him she didnt think they'd be back in time, so maybe we should postpone.
fuck that. i wonder if she realizes that we'd orignally planned for june, but then after she changed her date to the end of may, we thought that might be getting a little close to stealing her thunder, and since they were engaged first, and did plan first, i was okay with that. then we decided july, but the reception venue was booked. so that led us to augest 4th. that is the only weekend from the begging of may until the end of september that the room isnt booked. the only one!!
so here's my question. should we postpone our wedding so that his sister can have a 3 month long honeymoon, or attempt to reason with her?
thanx for the help.
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3 comments:
gosh we're awake at awful times.
my advice is this, talk to vance.
you know he wants to marry you, and he knows you want to marry him. if he says that maybe you guys should postpone, then postpone. but if it were me, i'd tell his sister that i was sorry she wasn't sure if she would be able to make the wedding, but you will be getting married on august 4th.
then leave it at that.
i think this might be her way of seeing if you and vance are really gonna do it.
don't worry too much about her not liking you - you're charming when you want to be, so switch on the charm!
love ya.
yeah so..i will throw in my two cents. Vance..I am very fond of you, eventually, I will love you as I get to know you, so please, dont take offence if you should read this.
Lisa is looking out for her brother, you have to admit that this has been kind of a whirlwind deal. Perhaps she thinks you are only after Vance for what he can give you.
I would, if it were me, talk to Vance's parents. Be honest and open, tell them what Lisa is doing, how she apparently feels and ask them what they think you should do.
However, you are not obligated to take their advice. If the two of you want to get married in August, then by God, do it. If she chooses not to be there, its her loss, not yours, not Vance's. She is an adult, she has a choice to make. Dont let her dictate to you what and when you should do anything. You can try talking to her, tell her you dont appreciate what she is doing, and that if she continues, you will not answer her calls any longer. Remember what I say about toxic people, GET RID OF THEM!!
And, if Vance lets her change his mind, then he must not be ready, his love for you has to be stronger than that for his sister.
nuff said
dont let her get to you
I agree with both your mommy & your sister ... communicate! Make sure you and Vance are talking about this ... and I don't mean you are complaining about his sister to him, I mean really talking about what each of you want to do. Come up with a solution together and it wouldn't hurt to talk to his parents (together, of course) who can prolly help you out on this or give you some insight! Good luck and it will all work out for the best ... Love you!
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